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Relationship Rules Of Engagement: Are You Jammin'?

By: Dr.Arlene Krieger, PHD


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But This Is My Bread and Butter" has been quoted it seems since the ice age. Maybe it is just another soon to become ancient jewel, its prolific meaning to be covered in cobwebs, lost to the English language and never to be found again. However, in relationship therapy, the mainstay of dynamics of relationship, sex, intimacy and money, remain forever constant, and this old cliche' is hitting close to home to more and more couples. When conflict arises, it can be confusing.

I liken the dynamics and personal interactions among lovers and couples as that of the numerous possibilities and options of one's personal preferences. Much the same as something as simple as the choices one makes with "the mixing of "butter and jam." The cliche' remains the same, its simply the nuances of interaction that do not stay constant.

Yesterday morning at breakfast, I was standing in my kitchen buttering a piece of toast, I placed my knife into the butter, and then ever so carefully into the jar of jam, being certain not to leave any butter in the jam jar. I laughed at myself afterwards... thinking, who cares....its my jam jar and I can do what I want with it! Does it really matter if there are bread crumbs abound in my fifteen-dollar jar of French jam? Did someone ask me or reprimand me?

These dynamics are truly the same for the "rules of engagement" in relationships. Whether one is arguing over, money, sex, love, lust, libido, the list goes on and on....the issue at hand always boils down to the right to personal choice and not wanting to be subjugated to another's decisive process.

Hence we are talking of one's right to choice, to not be owned, nor second to another, to have the right to speak your truth in relationship without being edited or condemned by your partner. This doesn't mean that one or the other of you is absolutely correct, and that it should ultimately come to one wrong or right, or being the loser or winner.

Healthy relationships are built on trust and respect which can often override differences. If Dick wants to dip his butter knife in the Jam, then Jane has a right to an opinion. However, if Jane is opposed to the idea, it is that stance of saying NO..to your partner...where one is put in the place of being in "the wrong." Aha!!!!! So why then must it come to blows...indignant emotions, feelings being hurt? One must always be right and the other wrong? Does it really matter? Isn't it a bit petty in the larger scheme of things?

It is this delicate process of compromise and acceptance of the other's belief system and perspective of the world, that most often leads to the throes of imbalance and unhappiness in relationship if ignored or swept under the table. For two to exist and more important love in harmony frankly is a work-in-progress, that, if includes a commitment to that work, can result in a happy union.

So that's it in a nutshell. There are some basics in relationship that can be changed, other behaviors are those that you'll have to decide whether or not you can live with. If you see a fight in the distance, choose it wisely because you might win the battle but is the war worth losing?

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